Friendship

As I can’t blog my pictures you’re going to have some more incoherent ramblings instead 8-).

I’ve been thinking about friendship quite a lot over the last few days. I don’t think I can do better than Aristotle in the Nicomachean Ethics (which I studied long ago). he divides friendship into 3 types:

  • that based on brief pleasure (common amogst the young)
  • that based on utility (typically involving commercial transactions or a distinct time and place)
  • that based on goodness, this is rare and needs time an intimacy to flourish. Once it does it’s permanent

“It is those who desire the good of their friends for the friends’ sake that are most truly friends, because each loves the other for what he is and not for any incidental quality”

I was once asked what I’d like on my gravestone (it was an existencial exercise not something threatening). On reflection I’d like it to say “She was a good friend”